Wednesday, 8 September 2010

Elle J'adore and the City

Regular readers of fashion Revival and friends of mine will know that my love life has been anything but smooth over the last year and a half. And for this elle j'adore and the city I thought I would make it a bit more personal as to be honest I now realise I have done EVERYTHING you are NOT supposed to do after a broken-heart and I want to prevent others from making the same mistakes I have made.
The following our lessons I have learnt with dealing with a broken heart....

1. Most importantly, you CANNOT be friends with your ex because there is always one person who cares more and you'll only end up getting hurt.
2. It is not wise to reply to your ex's drunken texts at 3 O'clock in the morning because as they say 'curiosity KILLED the cat' and well you will be extremely tired and grumpy the next morning in work.
3. Do not date someone else who knows your ex, it will just give you more reasons to mention their name and well it is kind of the rebound of rebounds.
4. Do not be guilt tripped by friends to accept his friend request on your new facebook account because he is on their lists. You do not want to hear about how he is currently drunk at 4 O'clock in the morning and wants some female 'attention'.
5. Never go round to his house for a cup of tea and a chat when you are stressing out and looking for support. Truth is he might have other things in mind and if you end up kissing you will only regret it later.
6. NEVER try any form of dating in a vulnerable state it will only make you generalise all men as the same (only being after one thing).
7. And finally, DO listen to your friends' advice but acknowledge that no relationship is perfect and no one has all the answers.
I apologise for being so glum in this post, I do acknowledge that every relationship is different and I applaud the people who can make things work but personally I thought I could and now I know I could not and cannot. However there are a few things I have been told by friends and family that I still disagree with now and to end on a positive note there are two points that I believe should be remembered religiously after a break-up which are....
1. NEVER deny your feelings. If you did/still do love the other person do not deny it even to them. Love is not something to be ashamed about, it is just their misfortune if they do not feel the same back.
2. It is OKAY to be single for a long period of time. It is not an other-half that makes you but you yourself and being single gives you more opportunity to discover the inner you. And if it takes you another 3 or even 30 years to do that, the only person it should matter to is you alone.

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